Divorce is just a piece of paper

Hey guys,

Let me tell you about something that recently happened in my life… As you might have assumed from the title, my issue begins with the word divorce. Now no, I did not get divorced, heck, I’m not even married… Not long ago, my parents told me that they are getting a divorce. Now, I know what you might think and no I am not some 12 year old child complaining about mummy and daddy splitting up.

This is my way of coping, this is my way of helping others learn from what I went through. It doesn’t matter what age you are, seeing the two people you grew up with, the two pillars that maintained your life for years, tell you that they are going their separate ways is devastating. It feels like your whole life is crumbling underneath you, breaking in a million little pieces. You feel like everything you ever knew was a lie and you don’t know how to go on. Of course, for the lucky ones, there are some that (if they do go through this) they go through it at a very young age, they grow up without knowing any different. Which is both sad and good at the same time.

In my case, my parents kind of progressed into it. It wasn’t much of a surprise to me or my sibling. We both expected this would happen but, even though we knew. Nothing could have prepared us enough for the time that the words actually came out of our parents mouths. It just hit me like a bullet straight through the chest. I didn’t know what to do so, I simply nodded and accepted the information. I later went into my room, processed what had just happened and just cried my eyes out. You will never know what to do at that time so the only thing you can do is cry.

Crying isn’t a bad thing. It actually helps a lot of the time. It’s like in every tear you shed, there is a bit of your problem just washing away. So when in doubt, cry till your hearts content and then get up, wipe your tears off and keep going. You should never freeze, never stop going because you will be left behind.

So, if you ever have to go through any of this (which I truly hope you don’t), always keep moving forwards and know that it will be over sooner or later.

Thanks,

A.

Liars or just overprotective?

Hi again,

I’m back to this. Obviously, there’s something wrong but this is what these places are for right? Vent all your anger, share it with the world so that others can relate. Anyway, to the point.

Lately I’ve been realising how much adults lie. Sometimes it’s just a little white lie to sugar coat the truth, other times it’s to protect a loved one. Save them from such pain that could possibly lead them to depression or even death.

Either way, it’s a human thing. Humans lie, it’s in their nature. I mean we all to hide the fact that we might be wrong at any time or that someone might discover a secret that we so desperately tried to cover up. (To all those lawyers out there) I’m sure you have seen various criminals that lied to you continuously, even though you promised to defend them no matter what. (maybe to all those doctors out there) As one of my favourite shows once said:

“All patients are liars until proven otherwise”

(And to all the others out there) How many times have you lied just because you didn’t want anyone seeing you as a liar? Or how many times have you been caught and felt horribly after? It is the worst feeling admitting you were wrong or is it worry to been seen as a liar?

Just think that over, maybe tell me what you think.

Thanks for reading,

A.

A Simple Question.

This explains everything I need to say today.

Enjoy and Thanks.

A.

Let’s go.

Ok, so here begins the reboot and see how it goes shall we?

Today was one of those days that are very irrelevant and just ordinary, if you get what I mean. I had yet another test that pressured my very last calm bone in my body and it will have a maximum of 25% impact on my life. I don’t understand why people feel the need to worry about everything, it’s our human nature. I mean, someone comes up to you and says:

do you really want to do that? what will everyone else think?

And that just sticks. Some continue with what they do and others don’t go through with it. Either way, that voice echoes in your head and just doesn’t stop. You then start questioning yourself:

What will others think?

And your head will just keep thinking of every possible thing that others could think. We usually look at people close to us and what they would think because we care about their opinion and want them to be happy with who you are, but, that’s the thing. All that doesn’t matter if you aren’t happy with who you are. You shouldn’t care if someone doesn’t like what you’re doing with your life; be it what you wear or what your career choice is. If you think it’s the right thing to do, then do it. Don’t look back, don’t let anyone stop you. If you let others influence who you are, then that isn’t your true self and you will never be able to happy.

Thanks.

A.

Reboot

Hello everyone such a long time.

I’m really sorry about this. I never post regularly but, as you may have seen, I’m rebooting my blog. I am going to put more effort into this. My blog is going to consist of life experience, much like now but with more depth.

It will include:

• Traveling experiences
• Photography Advice
• General Life Experince
• The odd short story

But i can’t do this without your help, if you have any advice or tweeks you think I should make, I am up to it, just leave a comment. Or, if you enjoy my blog, simply recommend me to one of your friends. The more people liking and reading the blog, the more often i will post. Anyway, thanks.

As always, enjoy.

A.

Old Friends again.

Hello my fellow reader, I don’t use plural because, if I’m completely honest, there isn’t many people reading this. Anyway… ‘Lets get started’

So, yes i haven’t posted in a very long time but i just wasn’t feeling inspired and why post if not inspired. It’s much better to wait for something good than read something that is absolute shit.

Recently, i visited my family. Now, i’m one of those people that moved around a lot and don’t see my family a lot so seeing them is a big deal. it was all full of emotions and all that but I won’t get into too much detail because, to be honest, do you really care? why would you? it’s nothing to do with you, it won’t affect your life in any way, shape or form so why bother?

Moving around is hard…but, exciting. People now a days are too comfortable where they are. They fear change because, they grew up with the idea that life doesn’t change but that isn’t true. and that is why when those people grow up, they find it so hard to adapt.

Stop and think over what your life was like as a child and what it is like now. Were you one of them? if you were, you can change that. Change that for your children. i don’t mean, move around all the time but im trying to say that you should at least try to warm them up to change or the idea of it. I’m not telling you what to do with your life or how to be a parent but I’m advising you, for the better of your child’s life.

Now, if you were a child that was used to change, you have your work cut out. To both categories I say, good luck and:

May the odds be ever in your favour

A.

Reality.

Hello to about the 10 people that probably don’t even read this but the fact is, I love writing about real life things. Everyone loves the idea of an ideal world, even me but that just isn’t being real with yourself. Making things up in your head can mislead you about the idea of reality. Books, TV shows…

Talking about real things is harder and easier. Harder because no one likes facing reality. Unless it’s good but sometimes, people don’t even appreciate what they have. They want more when sometimes more doesn’t exist. It’s also easier because you have experience and know what you’re talking about.

Blogs aren’t very popular in the social media because people are lazy. Even I admit to my laziness. Not many people like reading long paragraphs, they prefer it in a video which tells you everything and you can see the person. With reading, you have to imagine what the person is like and what their voice is like. Reading gives you the liberty to let your imagination run wild but still facing reality.

We look up to people with confidence and fame and so on. We want what they have, even though it’s a one in a million chance that you succeed. It’s just the thought but, those thoughts distract us from who we want to be. This is why I think that you should try to be the kind of person you would look up to.

Be the change you want to see in the world

Thanks for reading this and I hope it helped at least one of you.

A.

Countdown.

This week has been eventful… I have had good news and everyone loves good news! This isn’t the part where I say oh you just won something but it’s just personal good news.

When we get good news or something good that’s coming up, we like to countdown for. Although this just makes us even more anxious. We don’t care. It may start at 160 days and then onto 60 days and then 1 week but we still love it.
I love it.

I have to tell you though, people can ruin it along the way. You won’t stop being excited, you’ll just feel judged and sad about it at times but….

This is where I step in! I personally sometimes let people get to me. When I get judged, I feel a bit self conscious but I’m stopping that right away. Me and you, we are making a change.

Screw all those other people, they’re just jealous that they don’t have something to look forward to. I don’t care if it’s just one of you reading this but just try and not let people get to you.

Now go and start this well.

A.

Don’t Shut It Down.

We are all human. Why do we judge people? I can’t help but do it. For example, today, I was walking behind these girls and, i had seen them before and I knew how full of themselves they were. I just picked every small detail or flaw of their: “Oh she isn’t even that pretty” or “she walks really weirdly” or “make up covers up all her flaws”…

Judging is a part of human nature, we can’t help it. We walk past someone, inspect their appearance and our mind starts working both positive and negative but always negative first. Sometimes we don’t even judge something we think is unacceptable, we judge what society find unacceptable. They have tagged specific things that are or aren’t good and we have slowly been trained to think it. I even admit to it.

Any sign of weakness and we shut it down. We do this by accentuating others flaws and weakness.

My goal is to minimize judging, you give it a try too and get back to me next week.

Good luck. I know I’ll need it.

P.S. Don’t let anyone judge you.

A.

Don’t give it power.

When we work hard in life, we most likely receive something… not always a physical thing but we get something. People associate ‘hard work’ with getting something or money. In school they say “work hard and you will get a good job and money”. From an early age they are already putting our minds set on money. Money controls our lives. All about the money.

To get something you have to buy it with money, those people that have that, have had to either buy it from a different source or had to  buy the supplies to make it. Then those sources have to pay to get those supplies…. and so on. Money has torn relationships between people(individuals, communities, even countries) We should not learn this. Life is not about money, money feeds on our unhappiness. Any bullshit that anyone tells you that money is everything…. Fuck them and don’t listen.

We should work hard to be happy or to achieve something that makes us happy. And money is not the source to happiness, we learned to think that it is but its not.

If you are having a tough time about money or worried about the future and whether you will get a good enough job to earn money… don’t worry. Money is an object and it can’t rule your life. Money will come and go, all that matters is that you are happy and that you know you have done the best of your ability.

The closest we will get to the devil. AKA Money. don’t get overpowered. Don’t give it power.

Haven’t said this but thanks for taking time to read…

A.